Recently, I had a conversation with a friend who wanted to let me know that it seems my promises to people have conditions attached to them. I was taken aback by her words, but somewhere deeply in my heart, I was grateful that she mentioned it to me.
After that telephone conversation, I slipped into my brooding mode. I contemplated almost every promise I have made to anyone within the limits that my memory could carry me…and I reviewed the substance of her claim. Here is what I found:
To begin with, a promise is only as valuable as the integrity and capacity of the person giving it. If there is any delinquency in either of these two, the likelihood that the promise will be kept is slim. If the person promising do not lack integrity and capacity, then the promise is not impossible to fulfil. However, when conditions are attached to promises from a capable person, they are indicators that a premium has been placed on that promise. The fulfillment of it make a draw on the person’s integrity and capacity and there is the need for an assurance that the withdrawal from that capacity is not a waste.
Conditions of a true promise are never an exchange for the promised; a promise must remain a gift, not an exchange. Still, such conditions help to establish the value of what was promised. It sure costs the person promising something a price…sometimes a huge price.
A look at the character of God through Scriptures would reveal that His promises are unequalled in every way; but they are not without conditions. He gave Christ, his only begotten, and the condition was for anyone to just believe… Also, he gave immeasurable blessings, but not without the condition of obedience. Believing and Obedience are no exchange for what He gave, they are focused on securing committment to the relationship with God.
Indeed, no valuable gift should be without some conditions. It is an error to accept a promise without a condition. Honestly, a promise without a condition is a trap, for nothing in nature is designed to be so. Safe and genuine promises goes with conditions that seek quality relationship not an exchange of something of greater or unknown value.
So, safe and genuine conditions are never purposed to entrap the recipient. It seeks genuine committment through genuine relationships. Calculated conditions are usually not focused on ensuring committment through relationship; instead, it is usually an exchange that serves a higher value to the giver of the promise than the value that is given in the promise. If you find yourself in this kind of situation, being lavished in exchange for something you don’t know you have, thread carefully! Think clearly before you lose something of greater value to you that you may not know yet.
Summarily, do not be afraid when promises come with conditions; just check the purpose of the conditions – see whether it is after WHO YOU ARE or WHAT YOU HAVE. The former is safe, the latter is dangerous.