Bitter or Better


One very difficult thing to do in this world is being free from bitterness; you will have to break through the very core of you to be blameless in this regard. A million and one offense is waiting out there to snare: an unfaithful friend, a shameless acquaintance, a deceitful partner, an undependable ally, a difficult customer, and a dangerous colleague, to mention a few. Like a disease, bitterness reaches deeply into its host, sinks its fangs in anyone who makes room for it, and causes more damage than the offense that initiated it in the first place. Like a festering wound, it invites flies and leaves a foul odor in its trail.

But offense is a very significant part of life. There is no amount of prevention or carefulness that can immune you to an offense. It is coming; the best you can do is to be prepared for it. If the company that you have given so much to in service becomes threatened financially, they would have to let you go and it will hurt deeply. If your spouse, for whom you have sacrificed so much, betrays you for what he or she defines as ‘greater good,’ you will be heartbroken; [think about it, what kind of husband publicly denies his marriage to his wife because he doesn’t want to get killed while in search for better economic conditions like Abraham did]?

We become better by all the negative things that happen to us when we focus on the good in them than the hurt they were meant to inflict on us. For instance, I have a saying that if anyone says he or she is ready to fight me, my response would be something like: “You already won the fight, so we do not have to do the fight at all.” Yes, the offense hurt you so badly, it may have broken you so badly; still, there is something good in all the negatives . . . focus on that.

May we all find help to rise above offenses and be better instead of being bitter. Amen.

Enjoy your weekend.